Introduction:
- Over the past couple weeks, we have been talking about drama and conflict.
- Two weeks ago, we asked the question: What causes conflict? – Answer People get in the way of what we want.
- Last week we asked: What does God want to do in our conflicts? – Answer: Make us more like Jesus.
- Tonight, we ask: How should we respond to conflict? – Answer: Ask for and offer forgiveness.
Attention Funnel: Expectation vs. Reality
- When I was in middle school, I wanted to be Allen Iverson. He was an incredible basketball player and a world-class rapper. Two of the things I aspired to as a 7thgrader, and continue to aspire to as a 29-year-old. Although I’ve already achieved one of those things by now. He had an incredible crossover and could make some of the most ridiculous fade away shots… So I would spent my time doing those two things… meanwhile I could barely make a left-handed layup. I was so focused on the big flashy moves that I failed in some of the most basic things.
- Sometimes I think this is how we approach forgiveness… we only see the massive acts of forgiveness, while missing the small day-to-day aspect of forgiveness. And so if we haven’t had any really big hurts in our lives, we think forgiveness doesn’t apply to us… meanwhile we can’t manage to forgive a sibling when they take the last piece of food, or a parent when they have done something wrong to us.
- Some of you may have already experienced some really big hurts in your lives… and tonight’s lesson absolutely applies to you. If that is you and you are wrestling with forgiving someone, I would encourage you to share your story with a youth worker.
- But perhaps more of you are just struggling to do the day-to-day daily acts of forgiving people when they do something to offend you or make you angry.
- Tonight, I want to look at a well-known story in Matthew that Jesus told to see what we can learn and apply about this issue of forgiveness.
Big Idea: Resolve conflict by asking for and offering forgiveness.
Passage: Matthew 18:21-35
Main Points:
- Forgiveness is irrational.
- Refusing to forgive is even more irrational.
- Forgiveness in action.