Posts Tagged ‘Identity’

Stressed Out

Posted: October 13, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Peace In The Storm Lessons
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Introduction:

  • I would love to give a survey right now and ask you all to rank how stressed you feel… on a scale of one to ten.
  • Research would say that a majority of you would write down a 5.8 out of ten. Which might seem okay, until you realized that’s the highest average of any age group.
  • A survey taken by the American Psychological Association found that as of 2013 teenagers were the most stressed-out group in the United States…
  • 55 percent teens said they experience Moderate Stress (somewhere between a 4 and 7). 27 percent of teens said they experience extreme stress (8-10) during the school year, and only 18 percent said they experience low stress (1-3).
  • You may be skeptical of statistics, like me… but there is some other evidence that teens are really stressed out.
  • One of the most common answers I’ve heard from teens to the question, “How are you doing?” is “I’m stressed” or “I’m Busy.”
  • And one of the most popular songs from 2015 was a song called Stressed Out – By Twenty-One Pilots.
  • The Song didn’t just become popular because Twenty-One Pilots were trending… it’s because people can identify with it
  • The whole point of the song is that life is overwhelming and Tyler and Josh are stressed out.
  • Phrases like… “Now I’m insecure and I care what you think,” “Wish we could turn back time to the good old days,” “Out of student loans and tree-house homes we would all take the latter”
  • People can identify with that! We’re stressed out and we wish we could go back to a life that was much more simple
  • Tonight I want to look at a short story out of the book of Luke in order to tackle this topic of stress – The Story of Mary and Martha
  • I want to show you some of the ways we often cause ourselves undo stress, along with some ways of dealing with stress, and ending with the one thing that is most important for us to do.

Big Idea: Stress often arises from our priorities and performance.

 Maint Points:

  • There are many good things for us to spend our time on.
  • There are good and bad ways of dealing with stress.
  • A performance-based identity multiplies stress.
  • There is one thing we must do.

Passage: Luke 10:38-42  (more…)

Mixed Messages #3: Beauty

Posted: February 5, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Mixed Messages
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Attention Funnel: Video of girl telling people they are beautiful.

 Introduction:

  • I want to say first of all, this lesson is probably more geared towards girls.
  • But I do want to say that I think we are still effected by the things in this lesson guys. There is still a pressure to have a certain body type and look a certain way, we just don’t experience nearly the same pressure that the girls do.
  • Guys – I want you to think about how you view and treat the girls around you. Who are you more likely to give your attention to? Who are you more likely too make feel special? I want you to think about as men, does our way of treating women line up with how God treats them (and us).
  • Girls – I want you to be freed from feeling like you have to measure up to a certain ideal of beauty in order to be valued and loved. I want you to be able to more and more stop comparing yourself to other people. And I want you to pursue a beauty that is not just marked by skin and body.

 Mixed Message: You will be loved if you are beautiful.

 Big Idea: You are loved therefore you are beautiful.

 Passage: Song of Solomon 1:2-15; Ephesians 5:25-27

Main Points:
The ideal of our culture is impossible to measure up to.
The culture says if you measure up you will be loved.
God says that because you are loved you are beautiful.

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Social Identity

Posted: December 10, 2015 by keystoneyouth in Social Creatures
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Social Creatures

 

Attention Funnel: Best Instagram Posts Video/ Girl who left Instagram Video

 Introduction:

  • Whenever we talk about identity we should be drawn back to a specific question… “Who am I?”
  • Am I athletic? Am I smart? Am I musically talented? Am I funny? Am I an extrovert and outgoing? Am I an introvert and more reserved? Am I attractive? Am I interesting? Am I courageous? Am I successful? Where do I fit in? Who am I?
  • Social media can be a place we go to in order to answer these questions.
  • Social media can be a place where we present an identity (true or false) in order to gain value and acceptance.
    • True or false does not just mean a true or false statement… it also means taking 30 pictures until you find just the right one to post up. It means editing for a half an hour before posting. It means rewriting your caption and hashtag 10 times before finally hitting post. This is false because this isn’t how real life works… and you would never want people to know how much effort you put into a post because that would make you seem pitiful rather than like worthy.
  • I put something out there (true or false) and wait to see how many likes, favorites, comments, etc pile up and I base my worth wholely or more likely partially in that.
  • Rather than looking to social media to build an identity and assess our value, we should look to God and what he says about our identity in Christ.

 Big Idea: We find our value in what God says about us instead of what others say about us on social media.

 Passage: Romans 3:21-28

Main Points:

  • We boast to secure an identity.
  • We use an identity to find value.
  • God gives us an unchanging identity in Christ.

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Time, Talents, and 20’s Lesson #2 – Talents:

  • Introduction: Jimmy Kimmel Christmas Gifts youtube video and Steven Wiltshire youtube video.
  • Most of us probably don’t have the same skill of Stephen Wiltshire, but that doesn’t mean that God has overlooked us and given us terrible gifts as the parents did in the first video.
  • Define talent: A special natural ability or aptitude.
  • Big Idea: God calls us to be faithful to him as we discover and use the natural abilities that he has given to us.
  • Explain Passage: This passage is a parable that Jesus spoke concerning the resources God has entrusted to us and how we are called to use those resources during our time here on earth as we await his returns. Talents in this passage is not speaking of our natural abilities but rather of a financial weight that was used in Jesus’ era. It is a large sum of money. I believe it signifies the resources that God entrusts to us. So while this broadly covers all the things God has given to us, I want to look at the specific applications it has for the natural abilities that God has given us.
  • Read Matthew 25:14-30
  • The parable is made up of 3 scenes
  • Scene One explains that the master entrusts three servants with a certain amount of his money as he leaves to go away on a long journey. He gives five talents to one servant, two talents to another servant, and one talent to a third servant. We are not told why this is the case.
  • Scene Two explains what each of the servants did with what was given to them. The first and the second go to work with what they’ve been given and double the amount. The third servant sticks out because he instead goes and digs and hole and puts the money in the ground.
  • Scene Three explains the masters return and his response to what each servant has done with what was given. The first and second servants are praised for their faithfulness, and rewarded with more responsibility and “entering in to the joy of the master.” The third servant comes to God explaining that because of his view of the master he simply buried his money in the ground until the master returned.

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Finished Work in Progress

Opening Question: Have you ever gotten really excited about doing something and before you even tried to do it you gave up?

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Explain that Christians are “a finished work in progress.” We are brought from death to life by God leading us to place our faith in Christ. We live everyday confident that we are accepted and loved by God through faith in Christ. But we all live with the knowledge that in our current state we are far from perfect. God calls us to progressively become more like Christ. We do not become more like Christ by simply setting up a to-do list and a to-don’t list. We live in a growing knowledge that as people who have been raised with Christ, we have a new nature and a new citizenship.

Sometimes I’m afraid we fail in changing before we even start, because we have the wrong ideas about what change looks like.

  • We sometimes think its nearly impossible for us to change so why even try… or
  • We sometimes think all we have to do is stop certain behaviors, but we fail to see where the desires behind those behaviors pop up in other areas… or
  • We think we’re simply called to say no – to put to death all that is bad in us… or
  • We think we are all alone in are pursuit of change

Purpose: The change God calls us too is a not a burden, but rather is a joyful pursuit. As we look to Christ and who we are in Christ we progressively become more like him.

Main Point: God has given us a new nature in Christ, and we have a part in taking hold of that nature here and now.

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Here is the “completed” workbook from the retreat:  Who Do You Think You Are Workbook Completed