Posts Tagged ‘Sex’


Posted: February 22, 2019 by keystoneyouth in Death Row Lessons
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Attention Funnel: Stupid and Serious Warning Signs

  • When I talk about lust, I wonder if you approach is as you approach the stupid warning signs? Brushing it off… thinking it’s no big deal, thinking the warnings that are put out are just the words of an old-fashioned book and an out-of-touch youth pastor.
  • Or when I talk about lust, do you approach it like you would approach a very serious warning sign? That how we respond to lust (and all sin) is a life or death situation that shouldn’t be written off but should be weighed very carefully. That how we respond has serious consequences.


  • I realize I’m probably talking to 2 or 3 different groups on a night like this.
  • Group #1 – “Lust really isn’t that big of deal… it doesn’t really matter if I look at pornography, have sex with a boyfriend or girlfriend, masturbate, or use other people in my fantasies.”
  • Group #2 – “I know lust is a big deal, and I struggle with it almost every day. But I feel like I’m trapped, I seem to make no progress in fighting it… all I ever feel is more guilt and shame.”
  • Group #3 – “I can’t believe people would struggle with that. I mean if you have sex in high school you’re a slut, if you look at pornography your gross, and I can’t believe other people might struggle with these types of thoughts.”
    • To the first group I want to give a warning with the goal that you start to take the fight against lust seriously.
    • To the second group you already take the fight against lust seriously… you just feel overwhelmed by it. You feel like you are in a street fight in which you are badly outmanned. I want to both give you a comfort and remind you that you are not badly outmanned.
    • To the third group… just because you may not struggle with a certain sin does not mean you should look down on those who do. Rather, you should realize the only thing that keeps you from this is God’s grace, and you should have the humility to realize that you struggle with other sin in your life… and so take what is said tonight and apply it to that sin.
  • Our lesson will be driven by feeling the weight of lust, the tidal force of God’s grace, and the seeing the power we have been given to fight back against lust.

Passage: Matthew 5:27-30; 1 Corinthians 6:9-15

Big Idea: Lust is sexual desire unhinged from God.

  • Sex and Sexual desire is not bad, it is a gift from God. BUT like all of our desires, sex finds its proper place in being submitted to God.
  • A roller coaster is fun if there is something holding you down and strapping you in. A roller coaster is terrifying and deadly if there is no harness keeping you in place.
  • Sex is good if it’s within the confines of God’s will – marriage. It’s deadly and destructive outside the confines of God’s will.
  • Lust is sex that falls outside of God’s will… this includes hook-ups, sex with a girlfriend or boyfriend, adultery, oral sex, making out with and feeling up another person for the sole purpose of sexual arousal, looking at pornography, watching anything on TV that causes you to be sexually aroused, masturbating, and thinking about someone in way that they become the object of a sexual fantasy.

Main Points:

  • Lust will destroy you.
  • Jesus alone saves you.
  • Who you are shapes what you do.


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Attention Funnel: Food-Eating Contests


  • Often in this life we take good things and we end up misusing them.
  • We hope to get more out of them then what they really offer.
  • Rather than accepting the good things for what they are, we take them and try to make them what gives us life, purpose, meaning, and satisfaction.
    • Rather than accepting Hot Dogs as a thing to be enjoyed, people take them and try to eat as many as they can in order to win a prize,
  • One of the ways we do this as humans is that we take pleasure and make it the end all of life.
  • Solomon is going to test this way of life out for us… he’s going to put pleasure to the test, to see if it can give him the meaning and satisfaction in life that he craves for.
  • And spoiler alert, He is going to find that it comes up empty.

Big Idea: Pleasure is a good gift from God.

 Passage: Ecclesiastes 2:1-11; 2:24-26

 Main Points:

  • Pleasure is not the problem
  • Pleasure unhinged from God is the problem.
  • Enjoy pleasure as a gift from God.


Fully Submitted Sexuality

Posted: March 20, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Fusion Lessons
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 Attention Funnel: Jimmy Kimmel Video

 Big Idea: God commands us to express our sexuality according to His good rules.

 Main Points:

ALL people are created in the image of God (Gen. 1:26-27)

God’s laws are for our good (1 Tim. 1:8-10)

The goal is a sexuality submitted to God (Lev. 18:22, 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Cor. 6:9-11)

Your sexuality doesn’t have to be your identity (1 Cor. 6:9-11)

Hope: God’s grace is sufficient for today.  (more…)

The Porn Distortion

Posted: March 13, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Fusion Lessons
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 Big Idea: We do battle against pornography by replacing it with something better.

 Passage: 1 John 2:5-10; Psalm 16:11; 46:1; Ephesians 1:3-5; 2 Corinthians 5:21

 Main Points:

Pornography is addictive and destructive.

Pornography offers promises it can never deliver on.

God offers promises that He can fully delivery on.

Hope: We get set free by grace as we battle to believe the gospel.


Let’s Be Clear

Posted: February 27, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Fusion Lessons
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Attention Funnel: Top 15 Odd Warning Signs


  • Last week we talked about marriage. And we just shortly mentioned sex in that lesson. I said that marriage is the only safe place for sex because it the only relationship that is protected by a covenant.
  • This week we’re going talk more about sex. I want to be clear about the dangers and the foolishness of sex outside of marriage while at the same time celebrating sex within marriage and putting it in it’s proper place.
  • We are going to look first at a passage from Proverbs tonight that actually does this exact thing.
  • Much of Proverbs is a book written from the perspective of a father to a son (but we could also include daughter in there). It is not just meant to be for men but also for women.
  • The son seems to be just on the verge of adulthood. Some commentators think the son is in his mid to late teens.
  • The father is talking to this teenage son (and daughter) and he is encouraging him to pursue wisdom and turn away from foolishness.
  • He’s offering two paths of life – wisdom or foolishness, good or false good.
  • In Proverbs 5, the father is addressing the issue of sex..
  • The Father warns us about the foolishness of sex outside of marriage while highlighting the wisdom that confines sex to within marriage and celebrates the gift that it is.

Big Idea: Sex is a good gift from God.

Passage: Proverbs 5; John 4:10-18; Isaiah 1:18

Main Points:

  • Sex outside of marriage is dressed in lies and followed by consequences.
  • Sex within marriage should be celebrated and enjoyed.
  • Sex is good, but sex is not God.
  • Hope: In Christ, there are NO damaged goods.


Beautiful Mystery

Posted: February 23, 2016 by keystoneyouth in Fusion Lessons
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Attention Funnel: Would You Rather… 10 Years From Now

Series Introduction:

  • Why Fusion?
    • Fusion is the thing that happens when two objects come together to form a new object. In chemistry it’s when two nuclei are rammed into each other to form a brand new nuclei. This is a great description of marriage and of what sex is meant to confirm.
    • I also titled this fusion because I’m often going to use the metaphor of electricity throughout this series. When I think fusion I think of two wires that are fused together so that electricity can pass through them.   Ultimately I hope that you’ll see that sex, like electricity is a wonderful thing, but when it is used improperly it can be damaging, destructive, and deadly.
  • What’s coming up?
    • Week 1 – Marriage, Week 2 – Sex, Week 3 – Dating, Week 4 – Pornography, Week 5 – Homosexuality, Week 6 – Singleness, Week 7 – Panel (Sr. High Only)

 Lesson Introduction:

  • Why talk to Senior Highers and Junior Highers about marriage?
  • Two Reasons:
    • 1) Many of you will probably get married someday – and I want to even now start preparing you for that.
    • 2) Because marriage needs to be the proper framework through which we view everything else in this series. In order to understand sex, dating, singleness, and the distortions of sex that we are going to look at. We need to first understand what the Bible says about marriage.

 Big Idea: God created and designed marriage for one man and one woman.

  • This is what we see clearly in Genesis 2:24.
  • God creates marriage and makes it clear that it’s meant for one man and one woman.
  • This is also what Jesus affirms about marriage when he comes.
  • Some people are asking him about divorce and he points them back to Genesis… marriage is for one man and one woman.
  • Some people want to say that Jesus didn’t speak clearly about marriage. That’s false. Jesus clearly affirms that marriage is created by God and meant for one man and one woman.
  • And we also see in both of these passages that the husband and wife will hold fast to one another and become one flesh.

Main Points:

  • Marriage is the closest human relationship that exists.
  • Marriage is a covenant, NOT a contract.
  • Marriage is a window into something much greater!

Passage: Genesis 2:18-25; Matthew 19:4-6; Ephesians 5:22-23, 25, 31-32; Revelation 19:6-8


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Keystone Youth Ministry

Five Shades of Gray—Biblical Wisdom & Culture’s Blurred Lines

Week #4

3.914 & 3.12.14


Purpose:  Apply the truth of the gospel to areas of life where the Bible doesn’t speak or the world doesn’t listen.


Week 4:  NSFL—Pornography & the Sexualization of America

  • Date:  3.9.14 & 3.12.14
  • Purpose:  Warn youth of the dangers of sexual expression outside of marriage.
  • Main Points:
    • We live in a super sex-saturated world.
    • Sex is a covenant good, not consumer good.
    • Pornography is an addictive poison.
    • Christians fight porn with a superior pleasure.
    • Hope—The cross proves God loves us & commands what’s best for us.